…but not everything is beneficial 1 Cor 10:23
This weekend I just had an idea shoot in to the forefront of my mind that actually occured a while ago. It seems that those looking in on our faith are often preoccupied with the rules. Christians can’t drink, can’t smoke, can’t have sex before marriage, can’t have fun and so on.
Chatting to some of the young people in church and at some wider church events I’ve noticed we actually get a version of this same type of thing. ‘Is it ok for us to drink? ‘Can I watch 18 Certficate films?’ ‘What can I do with my girlfriend?’ ‘Can I date a non-christian?’
It strikes me that the real question is often ‘what can I get away with?’
I don’t believe this is unique to teenagers, I think our approach to church is similar, what is the minimum requirement? 2hrs on a Sunday morning? mid-week homegroup?
Imagine if you fell in love with someone, got married had an awesome honeymoon and the week you got back and settled in you approached the marriage by thinking, what’s the minimum housework I can do that will keep the wife off my back, or the what’s the maximum amount of time I can spend with my mates before she starts to complain … doesn’t really strike you as an the most loving of relationships.
Why are we like this with God and how can we change that?
If we picture God as this keeper of scores then we will always be focused on what the rules are, learning to play the game, fighting our case, finding the get out clause. If we see our relationship with God as a contract then we are stuffed because we would never have the ability to keep the terms. I would love to hear some suggestions but the one solution I see is that we need to see God as our Maker, the One who knows what is best for us, who knows what is beneficial. We need to see ourselves as the bridegroom, perhaps then we will focus on becoming the most beautiful wife in the world.